So what we're gonna do today is sort of a a nice first step, is to sort of drive this idea home. Okay? Yeah. Is we're gonna do an exercise where I'm gonna ask you to do something where the whole idea of it is to provoke some emotion. Okay? And what I'd like you to do here is try to connect with that emotion non judgmentally, and in the present moment. That's it. So we're gonna do something that's gonna bring up emotion.
And during the task, I just want you to connect with it. Okay. Okay? And I want you to notice, you know, what you think about it, how you respond to it, what you wanna do with it. Okay? Okay. Alright. So we're gonna start with focusing on something that's likely to provoke more a negative feeling for you. Okay? Like maybe sadness because I know that's something that comes up a lot And it's something that you don't wanna feel, you know, understandably.
But something I think we need to feel. Okay? But in this way, we need to feel it in this way. Do you have a song that like, there's different ways we can do it. We can do songs, movies, like lots of different ways. But let's focus on a song. I know you like, you told me you like music and so let's focus on a song.
So is there a particular song you can think of that might be, might provoke like a feeling of sadness, just provoke some emotion? I think probably one. I don't know if you've you're into the Fast and Furious series and stuff of that nature. I'm I'm familiar with it. It was around the time Paul Walker had that car accident where he passed away and think it was made a song that was like, see you again. Yeah. That was a pretty sad song, I would say so. Okay. Perfect.
So this is why I'd actually bring the headphones in today. So if you could can you find that on your phone? Yeah. Do you have it like maybe if you I don't know if you have like YouTube Music or something. And do you have the headphones? Yeah. Perfect. Okay. So I'm not gonna say anything, you're just gonna listen to it. Okay. And you can keep your eyes open or closed, whatever you feel more comfortable with.
But the whole idea is just to sit with whatever emotion comes up, and then we'll talk about it. Okay? Okay. Okay. Just listen to it. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. So weird. Yeah. Good job, man. Good job, man. Sorry. So, no, it's alright. So tell me what that brings up, what that brought up. That that was just like a very sad situation in general with that, but for me personally, it just made me think about stuff in my life.
It was, like, negative and positive because, like, I wanna do I wanna do these great things, and I know that I can do these great things, and I'm just battling myself. It's like, why are you why are you not doing it? And I'm thinking about things that you just said in terms of just judging myself, and I think you're never gonna be able to do what you wanna do or feel any type of feelings. You're just gonna be this, like, big blob of, like it's, like, black and gray. I need to, like, bring out color in myself and stuff like that.
It's, like, you need you could do these things, but I think that song just kinda accentuated those feelings. Like, believe in yourself kind of. Like, just have to believe in yourself and just do it. Just go out there and just do it. Yeah. Yeah. Think, you know, don't know why. It made me cry, it's possibly because I'm just like, like I said before in my last session, I'm so frustrated with myself, you know.
You know, I can be very **** ** myself or maybe not hard enough. Yeah. No. I I think what it sounds like, you know, with something like this, you know, it's it's bringing up emotion. Right? And then it sounds like it's bringing up the song is sort of geared towards feeling sad. Yeah. But it's becoming a little clearer maybe why you don't wanna feel some of those feelings.
Because it seems like maybe when you start feeling that way, it then leads to you thinking about your life, leads to these thoughts of like, I didn't do what I wanted to do, feeling like you're not gonna be able to accomplish those things. So you can see how the emotion then is gonna build on itself really quickly in those situations. Right? So, and then it also seems to turn towards feeling like a failure, feeling like you didn't accomplish what you wanted to accomplish, you know? And that you're not gonna be able to accomplish that. So we were talking about why do you not wanna feel these feelings?
Well, it sounds like these feelings also bring up these thoughts. Yeah. Negative things in my life. Right. Right. And feeling like a failure and feeling that pressure. Right? But by feeling these feelings, right, and if that's what comes up with it, then we can do something about that. We can work with that. Alright? That's what's coming up. And I think that's that could be a big part of why you don't wanna feel sad.
You don't wanna feel these feelings. Makes me think about a whole bunch of things that I shouldn't be thinking about. Yeah. I mean, presently you just told me just to be in the present and think about why that song made me sad, but I'm thinking about all the past things. Yeah. Yeah. And stuff of that nature. So I feel like if I do something, that's possibly gonna make me sad. Yeah. These other things are gonna pile on top with it. Right.
Right. And then, I don't It's just too much to handle in a sense. Yeah. I don't wanna feel it now. Yeah. But you are feeling it right now. You are handling it. I wouldn't say this is handling it. It doesn't seem like it. Why? Because you're crying? Do you guys feel it this way? It's associated with being a sign and I know.
So I wanna say, I don't know if that's handling it. Yeah. I mean, to my definition of it. Right. Yeah. Well, if it comes up, you know, I mean, in terms of, you know, those feelings or thinking about the past, I mean, there's different ways of responding. I mean, part of it might be kind of bringing yourself more to the present. So we have to figure out, like, does it make sense for you to think about all those things that happened in the past?
So we talked about that. Right? Rumination, that idea of ruminating. Maybe that's not helpful to you. Maybe the emotion that you feel, that's where it takes you is towards ruminating. In the same way that for some people anxiety makes them worry about things in the future. Right? Maybe that's not helpful. So, maybe we try to replace that with something else or we try to keep you more present.
Right? That might be a way of helping you to respond differently to those feelings. I'll see you then. Alright.