Secure Attachment
EFT: Attachment Science in PracticeThere are three clear models of attachment. You can think about these as personality styles, or you can think about them as strategies, the healthiest attachment style, what we call Secure Attachment, is where you basically have a model of others where they're trustworthy, and you can turn to them. They'll be there when you need them, and you have a model of self as lovable and being able to manage your vulnerability. And this is associated with mental health in general with, for example, less depression and less anxiety. There are in over a hundred studies, the severity of depression has been connected with the quality of your most intimate attachment.
What we know is that secure attachment sets you up to cope better with almost any situation in your life. Securely attached folks who can trust other people, who expect other people to be there for them. They get less depressed. They are more assertive. They can deal with difficult situations better, they're more resilient in trauma. So what we want basically is to help people become more and more securely attached, able to connect with other people and reach for other people, and able to feel good about themselves and know what to do with their own vulnerability.